* DO NOT REMAIN FRIENDS. If you have children, you're no longer friends, but business associates. Only discuss the kids. When you remain friends there's still an emotional attachment to the drama. Friendship is the foundation of a relationship.
* DO NOT DATE. Give yourself at least 3 to 6 months to review in your heart and head what happened before you date. There is a grieving process. You shouldn't get into any serious dating or relationships because you need time to review and get back in touch with you. If you've been with a person for years, give yourself a year. It takes time to release a person from your energy field.
* DO NOT LISTEN TO SAD LOVE SONGS. Stay away from the oldies and slow jams for the first couple of months, because they tear your heart apart. People think slow songs are therapeutic, but they can be torturous.
* THINK ABOUT WHY YOU'RE NOT TOGETHER. There's a reason why you're not together. Focus on that reason.
* RID YOURSELF OF REMINDERS OF YOUR EX. Get rid of things that remind you of that person because everything holds energy. Cleanse your house so that it's a clean space because it holds spirit. Get rid of jewelry and mementos by giving them to another person or charity. Keeping items will keep you attached to that person. If you lived together, get rid of the bed because it too holds spirit.
* STOP TALKING ABOUT THE EX. When it's over, it's over. Even when friends and family want to talk about it, don't. Friends and family can't give you perspective because they will always be on your side. Words are powerful. The more you talk about it the more you're connected and it keeps that energy going.
* GET BUSY. Do things that are a service to others. Volunteer at a hospital or at the Red Cross. When you come out of a relationship, everything will remind you of that person. When you're of service to someone else, it takes your mind off of it so that person isn't in your head so much.
